Relationships of any kind have a major impact to mold us
into a person that we are. However, the sibling factor plays one of the most
important roles among all others. Family
is what we have and will continue to have until the last breath. While parents
teach us the social norms and help us achieve our ambitions, siblings lend us
the emotional support, teach us to stay strong through the difficult times and
make us a better human being. Though we come out of the same womb, siblings are
more like different fingers of the same hand. The chemistry we share with our
siblings since the beginning lays a foundation for the future relationship. Sibling
relationships may have both positive and negative effects, but at the end of
the day, it is always our choice as to how we want to perceive it.
I remember during my childhood when I told my mom that I have to go to a
birthday party and my sister always wanted to come along, when I had to go to the
school early and she was still getting ready; when I got a new dress for myself
and she always wanted what I got. These are some of the many instances and for
many reasons my sister became my competitor. It took me long to realize about
the days when I lied to my mom that I was going to a nearby store but ended up
going to a friend’s place. The days I made my sister wait for long hours after
school just because I was playing badminton, the days when I pretended to get
up early and study, but all I did was sleep with open book in my hands. She
knew everything about me yet she never complained, sometimes she was even
bashed for my misdoings but she never spoke a word against me.
It is common for
siblings to have fights or misunderstandings, but siblings develop sense of
vulnerability in a way what parents and friends cannot do. We may share a great
rapport with our parents, but the way in which they see things is different
from what we presume. As far as friends are concerned, we end up hanging out
with various groups in different phases of life. However, siblings understand
us more than anyone else does; they fall into a place where both parents and
friends do not fit, as neither age nor phase comes into picture.
Siblings offer mental support and remain a trustworthy
confidant in the hardest of situations. The interaction with siblings’, good or
bad sets groundwork for our social skills with our peers. Be it negotiation, sharing,
managing conflicts or understanding they teach you to create healthy
relationships with the world outside our family. In a way, they develop
competitiveness and inspire us to succeed. The negative aspect of sibling
relation is that easily rub off the bad habits making us unknowingly end up in
a bad space. Often favoritism and competitiveness also trigger attention-seeking
habits that may result in inclination towards adverse behavior. Nevertheless,
as I said before it is always a conscious decision on our part to tolerate the
negative emotions and the stick to the brighter side of things.
In today’s world of technology, where relationships are fast
losing the importance it is necessary for each of us to nourish the bonds even
in adulthood. It is common among grown up individuals to lose contact with the
siblings mostly because we are too absorbed by our own family responsibilities,
but it is imperative to maintain the strong-sibling ties and not to get
over-shadowed by other relationships. Cheers to the beautiful relation worth
lifetime of memories!!!
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